These days, there are not many movies that leave me breathless or in tears. And the movies that do, I rarely admit it when it happens. If I am sitting at home or in a movie theatre, I usually bury my face into my hands in embarrassment—hoping that when the lights come on, no one would notice that I was bawling like a baby. Today, I just walked out of the movies with red eyes and dried tears on my cheek, with a different emotion.
The movie was about a man and a woman. They met, fell in love, and eventually married. They never had any children, and the wife eventually dies from a terminal illness. After the spouse’s death, and throughout the remainder of this man’s life—he feels that he no longer has a purpose to live on. And so, he decides to leave his job and spends his days wrestling over the struggle to take his own life. The man was determined to end his life in hopes to be reunited with his loved one in death. However, in the shadow of his conscience at various times as he contemplated the act of taking his own life, he would hear his late spouse whisper with a soft and loving voice,
“You have to keep living.”
The man in the movie experienced such a profound sense of loss that it changed him to the point of questioning his own existence. The pain caused him to become bitter and angry. In the movie, he had poured himself into the relationship and without her, he was left with a void—a feeling of being incomplete. He could not handle the pain of losing his spouse and thus, it altered his life forever. I’ll admit that I could not hold back the tears that filled my eyes; the words of the spouse pierced my heart so deeply as I watched this story because of connection to the causalities in our own lives that require us to change.
I have heard someone say that people change at four different seasons: 1. When they hurt enough they have too, 2. When they see enough they are inspired too, 3. When they learn enough, that they want too, 4. And when they receive enough, that they’re able too.
At this very point in my life, I can acknowledge some very obvious things: I am not a millionaire or feel that I am anyone of significance. I do not hold a prestigious position at my work place or in my community. I have not authored the book I have always wanted to pen, visited every place in the world I have dreamt of, recorded that last worship album, nor have I completed my PhD. And unfortunately, as I look at my dwindling retirement accounts, I accept the notion that I am years away from reaching that milestone and will probably work for another 25 years. But despite all the unknowns that I presently face, I have never in my entire existence felt more in control of my life—then this very present moment.
Despite all the pain I have experienced in my life, and all the change that have occurred, I am not an angry and bitter old man (like the one in the movie). I still hear that small whisper of a voice telling me, “You have to keep living!”
I am so encouraged today, because sometimes in the midst of our growth, we shed things and people, ideas, and pursuits, all in exchange for things that you may not see on social media—peace, joy, contentment, and security. I am learning to embrace change both good and bad. As difficult as it is, I am learning to accept the pain and “keep living.”
“You do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is but a vapor…” James 4:14
If you need words for prayer, read and believe this prayer.
Father, I accept the things that are in my control and not in my control. I forgive those who have hurt me, and equally, I ask for for forgiveness when I have been wrong. I accept that everything is under your divine control and that the things that occur in our lives first must pass through your hands. Thank you for revealing to me truth, change and even pain. You are Jehovah Rapha—the God who heals all brokenness. Heal my brokenness and turn my failures into victories. You are Jehovah Jireh, and you provide all of my needs. Continue to be my provision because without You, I am nothing. Thank you, because You are my authority and I yield to my faith in You. Thank you for the gift that is our life—and I will not take for granted not a single day from here. Thank you Father.