Have you ever heard the saying “Do as I say, and not as I do.” It’s actually a funny example that is often used in the context of parenting. Parents will say “Don’t drink…” or “Don’t have sex…” to their teenage sons or daughters; yet those same parents spent their adolescent years drinking and having sex in disobedience to their own mother and father.
I think what parents actually intend to say is “Don’t make the same mistakes I did!”
Generally speaking, it’s ironic how people can try and give advice but not follow it themselves. I think as Christians we have to be careful not to cross the line of giving advice that we cannot follow ourselves. (Believe me, as I write this, I do so with conviction).
So is a marital counselor who has marriage problems suddenly disqualified from giving counsel? Is a teacher who has a son or daughter failing in academics, not eligible to teach? Or is a Pastor who struggles in his spirtuality, suddenly disqualified from sharing the Word of God?
So then why are we so quick to judge people? Why are we so quick to establish conclusions about people’s lives and disqualify them simply because of discrepancies we find or see?
The Bible says “You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye.” (Matthew 7:5).
It is with the best intentions, we encourage people because we want them to live right. The Bible says “You will know them by their fruits…” In other words, we will be able to see through the genuineness of a person’s life in the reflection of say their marriage or relationship, their children, or job. While some may disagree, we must always remember that while we point the finger at others, there’s always more fingers pointing back at us.
So next time someone judges you or critiques your life–don’t be offended. Just remember that usually when we ask God to help us grow–he typically makes it rain. Let it wash you. Let the rain water and revive those dry areas in your life.
Today, remind yourself that God is your judge. He is a God of forgiveness and a God that understands. Know that He understands your struggle and while He does not give you a “get out of jail free card” for every mistake you make–He is still God. He is still on the throne and He is still not like us.